Signs Of An Emotionally Healthy Woman
Does it sometimes feel like the world has gone stark raving mad and they are trying to drive you to crazy town with them?
Sometimes it’s people trying to pull you into their drama at work (“Girl, did you hear what Susie Q said to me?”)…
Or your husband saying stuff (“Why aren’t my pants ironed yet”)…
Or your kids tripping at school (“Mrs.So&So, This is the principal at Central High School. We need you to come down here right away”).
Or it’s the news or social media (News Headline: “The Worst Thing That Has Ever Happened In The Existence Of The World Has Happened Just This Morning“).
Of course, I’m being a little tongue in cheek but there does seem to always be something or someone that is trying to mess with our emotional and mental state.
So if you’re able to have these 23 signs of an emotionally healthy woman in the midst of all the dramas of life and constant state of outrage that the media seems to claim we are in you’ve got it going on.
If only I had a dollar for every time a news headline said something or someone “sparked outrage” I’d have at least $5,000 dollars by now.
So let’s get into it but first, if you want to dive even deeper into this topic then you can get a free copy of my Emotional Health Inventory where you can take an emotional health quiz and then I give you a little analysis of your results.
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Signs Of An Emotionally Healthy Woman
1. You treat others well.
Everyone has a bad day here and there where they might be ruder than they normally are.
However, if you are kind to others then that is a sign of emotional maturity.
You get extra points for treating others the way you would like to be treated, even if they aren’t kind to you.
“Do to others as you would have them do to you.” Luke 6:31
2. You like who you are.
If you’ve done deep self-reflection and you come to the conclusion that you truly like who you are and like the person that God created you to be then this is definitely a sign of emotional well being.
3. You’re flexible.
Emotionally healthy girls know that plans change and you have to roll with the punches of life.
Everything is not going to go the way you want or planned. If you’re emotionally healthy, you adapt.
If someone’s not, they throw a tantrum and pout because things didn’t go the way they wanted. Harsh but true.
4. You hold gratitude for your loved ones.
You know that no one has to do anything for you.
And when I say no one I mean no one, not even your parents (granted, they should do something for you but they don’t have to and a lot of parents don’t do anything for their children).
Given this, emotionally healthy girls are grateful for the things that others do for her because she understands, they didn’t have to.
5. You’re in touch with your emotions.
There were times when I was feeling anxious about something and I tried to bury that feeling. Why?
Because it was uncomfortable and I didn’t want to deal with that emotion. I just wanted it to go away.
But as I began to mature emotionally, I realized that it is best to acknowledge whatever it is your feeling and find healthy ways to deal with that emotion.
6. You don’t sweat the small stuff.
What does this mean? Do you know someone who gets mad about the dumbest things in the world?
Like they legitimately want someone to get fired from their job if they don’t make your sandwich correctly.
People like that, are definitely not emotionally healthy.
Emotionally healthy people don’t get angry about silly things that really don’t matter, especially in the light of eternity.
7. You value experiences more than possessions.
This is my own personal opinion but experiences are more important than unnecessary possessions.
And experiences can’t be taken away and they can be shared with those that we love.
Whereas material things can burn in a fire in 5 seconds and be gone forever.
8. You are comfortable with who you are.
It’s not that you don’t think you need to improve or challenge yourself. But you know who your identity is in Christ and you aren’t easily swayed from that identity.
9. You don’t delight in other people’s heartache.
When other people are hurting, even if they are your enemies, you have sympathy for them and don’t wish harm on others.
10. You have positive relationships with the people in your life.
You have real, honest, and deep relationships with people in your life that you can trust.
You don’t have relationships where you fuss and fight with someone on a consistent basis with no resolution.
I know that this can be hard because sometimes there are people in your life that make living in harmony very difficult no matter what you do.
But as far as it depends on you, those relationships are as harmonious as possible (or if possible, you are removing yourself from that relationship).
11. You can admit when you’re wrong.
Even if you have trouble doing it, if you’re wrong and you can admit that to yourself and to others, you are definitely emotionally stable. This is a rare trait these days.
12. You learn from your mistakes
Then once you admit that you’re wrong, if you can evaluate that mistake, see where you went wrong and then learn how to avoid making that mistake again in the future, you’re basically a unicorn.
13. You are comfortable saying ‘no.
You don’t feel obligated to say yes to everything. It’s just not possible to do everything nor are you really supposed to. If you can say no without guilt, then you’re actually a purple unicorn.
14. You make time to relax.
You don’t believe you have to be busy every second of every day. You know that you need time to relax and just chill out.
15. Ok being by yourself.
This one is potentially optional but I do think that those who are able to be by themselves without getting anxious or lonely are pretty emotionally balanced.
And I’m not necessarily just talking about being alone like without a partner (although I think that can be healthy too) but I just mean being in a room by themselves and reflecting on life or being alone with their thoughts.
16. Purpose- you know why God created you and you are either working toward that purpose or living that purpose currently.
This is pretty self-explanatory.
If you are able to be alone with your thoughts and be still and know God with any regularity, then you know whether or not you are really living in your purpose, working toward it, or just following the normal trajectory of life that is laid out (go to school, go to college, get married, get a regular job, have kids, retire).
17. You allow yourself to feel your emotions but you don’t let them control you.
It’s healthy to let yourself feel how you are feeling even (and especially) when it is painful.
In other words, don’t bottle your emotions. They will eventually come out and typically, it won’t be pretty.
You know that God is the one who gives you self worth not likes on Instagram
Social media is great in some ways but it’s terrible for making people fall into a comparison trap.
Everyone’s life can seem so amazing on Facebook that you start to get down about yours.
Or this person has more friends than me. Or this person said this on Facebook and I unfriended her.
I mean I’m sure it’s only teenagers that worry about this kind of stuff though, right?
Nor is your self-esteem wrapped up in how other people view you. I know this is so much easier said than done.
We do want respect and validation from others and I don’t think that’s wrong or completely unhealthy. But that shouldn’t be the foundation of our self-worth.
19. You are capable of loving or receiving love.
Some people can give love but not take it. Some can take it but not give it. If you can do both then pat yourself on the back.
20. You are capable of receiving compliments.
If someone compliments you, you just say thank you. You don’t say “Who me” or “Are you sure”.
21. You are capable of giving compliments.
Not only can you receive compliments but you have no problem complimenting others on how they look or on what they have accomplished.
22. You can forgive others
You understand that holding grudges hurts you more than it hurts anyone else. So you forgive others, even when they don’t deserve it.
Plus you know how much God has forgiven you when you didn’t deserve it.
23. You can forgive yourself
You also are able to give yourself grace. You don’t beat yourself up over and over again when you mess up.
You know that you are human, that you will mess up (a lot) and you can forgive yourself, ask for forgiveness if need be and learn from your mistake.
24. You don’t get caught up in other people’s drama.
You know how some people like drama and they want you to like it too, even when it doesn’t concern you? Yeah, not you and not today.
Other people’s drama (meaning silly petty issues that have been blown up for no reason) don’t concern you and you don’t let other people influence you to get involved.
Thanks but no thanks.
25) You’re A Good Listener.
You fully understand that the world doesn’t revolve around you and your life.
So you give others the chance to express what they are feeling without needing to inject your own problems into the conversation.
Do You Have The Signs Of An Emotionally Healthy Woman
Does this list trigger you or are you nodding your head thinking yep a lot of this describes me?
A lot of these traits describe me but I definitely have much to work on. Luckily I can give myself grace and know that some days I’ll be in control emotionally and some days I may not.
It all comes with this crazy human experience.
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